I have a situation and reaching out to the board in what I should do. My GF who I’ve gotten really serious with took her son to school and the PE coach is a muscular black guy wanted to talk to her about her son. He asked a lot of questions about her home life and personal questions to see if anything is going on because her son (6 years old) will do things to get into trouble, but just laughs about it when redirected. We see that at home as well and he’s been sent to time out immediately when he does it. So he found out that my GF is divorced from her sons dad. Keep that in mind as the story goes on. My GF was holding her son while he was crying and he reached over to take her son from my GF to help him in and so that my gF could leave and he touched her crotch area. It startled her but just thought it was incidental when he was picking up her son from her. So my GF then went to his teacher right after that to ask if she’s also seeing it. She said yes but nothing that can’t be handled in the classroom. But the teacher seemed to be more concerned that the PE teacher didn’t go through her because that’s the normal protocol. We will find out just what those concerns are later.
So as my GF left her class the PE teacher was waiting for her to come out and said he wanted to discuss her son more. She told him okay but that she will be right back because she left her phone in the car and she has to call work to let them know she’s running late. She gets to her car and is talking to her boss as she was stand there with the door open. She had to park a little bit around the building so it was in an isolated area of the parking lot. When she hung up and turned around he was right there behind her and scared her. He apologized. So he told her he was sorry that she is divorced and single. She told him she is divorced but not single. That she has a BF. He seemed to just ignore that and started asking her if she ever notices how he looks at her. Told her he’s going through a divorce as well. He tried to reach out and hold her hand and she pulled back and told him that she’s not interested and that all she wants is for him to be her sons PE teacher. So he said okay and then acted like he wanted to give her a quick hug and she was caught by surprise and then he tried to lean over and kiss her. She tried to step back but he had an arm around her and she turned her face to the side and he ended up kissing her in the cheek. Then he stepped back and started practically begging her to take a day off and that he would as well so they could spend the day together. She told him she was not interested and he began to beg saying I promise you won’t regret it. She told him no and got into her car. As she was climbing in he told her please don’t say anything because the women here at the school like to gossip.
She immediately called me once she got in the car crying and very upset because she was so scared. My first thought made me want to go kick his ***. But once I calmed down I told her she has to go back to the school and report it. I told her she’s not just doing it for herself, but the predator that he is he’s done that before and he will continue after other victims. Because that’s very ballsy of him to be that forward. Being that forward means he has done this before and will continue to. My GF had a important meeting later that morning at work and was giving a presentation so she had to get to the office. But she did write her teacher to tell her about what happened. Of course the teacher also told her to come in and meet with the principal because her words would be much more effective. The teacher told her that he has a history of complaints about him. He’s around late 40s early 50s and nothing has ever happened in those complaints. The teacher also had made a complaint about him before. He is ex-military and a black man and has always played the race card and also the veteran card.
When she arrived in the parking lot this morning she could see him at the front door holding it open for everyone. She sat in her car for about 10 mins scared to death to walk in. We already discussed that she would go to the principals office once inside. So she finally walked in with her son this morning and he tried to talk to her by saying hi and told her that her son did very well yesterday. She did not speak to him or make eye contact. My GFs son’s teacher saw her and walked in with her. She then took her son to the classroom and then she escorted my GF to the principals office and she said she could tell he was looking that direction as she went in to the office. So he knows he’s being reported. The principal said they will treat this as a sexual assault and she will go to her higher ups about it. My GF is so afraid of him. I actually live with her on weekends and at my place during the week in SA. But she has to drive the opposite direct to work making that 2 hours away from me.
As of right now if this predator still keeps his job I’ve decided to go to the school board meeting if I have to and discuss it with them. If the school doesn’t take action on this known predator do we have any legal actions that can be taken? She’s also afraid for her son as well. My GF is scared and told me she was shaking when she was speaking to the Principal. I’m not sure she has any witnesses or any way to prove it. But I’m wondering if he’s had a history doing this and being reported would that hold water. I’m furious about this whole situation. She shouldn’t have to deal with this. My GF is very attractive and I feel lucky to have her. I’m sure she’s out of my league but she doesn’t feel that way. But it’s frustrating that there never seems to be consequences anymore for people like this.
I don’t know any of you personally but consider everyone here my friend (even SH). Is there anything I’m not thinking about?
Last edited: Sep 18, 2018