I love virtually everything you said, but I'm pulling this quote for further discussion. I want Deez, Jr. to have an open mind in general, but I'll admit that I don't want his mind open on everything.
I'm always outwardly respectful of other people and their beliefs and lifestyles. For example, as much as I detest this gender fad (and it is a fad and a stupid one), I wouldn't intentionally call a "trans-woman" a man to his face. I wouldn't tell a non-Christian that he's going to hell. (To be clear, I will not deny my faith, and if pressed or asked explicitly, I will say yes. However, I won't say it unprovoked.) Why not? Because it's rude and counterproductive. However, that treatment is for the outside world.
I have different responsibilities in my own home. It's my job to teach Deez, Jr. the truth and solid values, even if it would be rude to do so in public. We're a Christian home. We go to church. We pray and read the Bible. We believe that a marriage is a lifetime, monogamous commitment between a man and a woman, ordained by God for the purpose of building families. We don't believe that putting on a dress and wearing makeup makes you woman or that having short hair and wearing pants makes you man, even if you're delusional enough to think otherwise. We're Americans, and we believe in the principles that were written into the US Constitution and the Declaration of Independence and think the fact that it is written rather than pulled out of some judge's *** makes a difference. To be perfectly honest, I don't want his mind open to some other faith, national loyalty, values, or lifestyle. If he happens to choose something else as an adult, I'll love him just the same, but it'll be with my fervent and explicit disapproval. That doesn't mean I'll hassle him about it, because that won't help, but he will know where I stand and why.
Of course, this begs the question of if this stuff is so good, then why be so lopsided and arguably even unfair in my approach? Why not let him see Christianity and Americanism on the merits and choose it and its lifestyle without influence as many passive, candy-*** parents nowadays do (which is how we got Millennials)? The reason why is that I know that what comes at him in school and in the popular culture will not afford that same courtesy. Our faith and values are going to be crapped on at school and in the popular culture as the "progressive" Left tries to fill his mind with their garbage. He's going to be told to reject that stuff and substitute it with an unquestioning loyalty and acceptance of government and to global citizenship. That was true when I was in school, and it's far more true now. That crap will come up when he gets older, and when it does, I'm going to slap it down very hard and explain to him the corrupt and destructive agendas behind it. He's taught to be respectful to his teachers at all times, but he will also be taught that if what his teacher says conflicts with what he's taught at home, he should and must reject it.
And I get it. That's harsh and seems out of character for me. However, like I've said before, it's all about the roles that we play in certain situations. Same thing applied professionally. There are positions I took on things as a lawyer that I wouldn't take or accept as a judge because my role was different. A lawyer is there to zealously pursue the interests of his client. A judges is there to zealously apply the law as it's written. Likewise, my role as a respectful and open minded adult in public is different from my role as a father.
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