When I was little, more than half a century ago, I had occasion to use the N word . singing a silly ditty starting with"Daniel Boone was a man" My father heard from another room and with very memorable use of words and actions convinced me I never wanted to use that word again. I grew up in a rural town where others had different examples at home and some older folks routinely used racial slurs. Now I live in a world where I literally never hear the N word live, though I frequently hear it in recorded music and comedy routines delivered to mixed audiences. I understand white suburban youth, exposed to the word through media, use it some. I was curious about resurgence of a word that I never had to tell my children never to use and did some research. My findings are that hip Black people CAN use the N word and in fact can use it like Tony Soprano associates use the F word. For them it is the rough equivalent of "fella." For white folks the term is never to be spoken. I'm going to have a talk about it with my 20 year old son ... Cause I never had occasion to correct him.