Why is "moving to the country" a fantasy exclusive to middle aged, white men? This is a mystery to me, BTW, and I'm a borderline middle aged white male. On vacation days I have to burn, I'd bored by noon. I can't imagine having that 24/7. However, almost every middle aged white man I know has the dream of moving as far away from people as possible. Women don't want this. Black people don't. Asians don't. Alaska is full of white guys, for example. A partner at my wife's firm already lives out in the country and when he retires, he wants to move farther out in the country. His wife ain't down with that at all. Why is this the white guy fantasy?
My Dad's dream of that pulled me into small town Texas when I was 10. Ugh. Horrible time being there.
I think alot of it is because "the country" has always been full of white men. I'll bet 85% of Asians and Black people are born in pretty sizable cities. Sometimes you don't yearn for what you don't know, it's not ingrained into their culture.
We have 180 acres in the country-- always something to do out there every time we get stuck in traffic, my wife wants the same thing 10 yr plan, finish cabin, fix fence, buy cattle, plant orchard, garden, start organic goat cheese business, ......have overly rich people stay in cabin, get taste of country, pick fruit and produce for me, milk goats, fish, eat wine and cheese and pay me about $1000 for the weekend-- then go back to the city and re-book for next year during peach harvest
I'm Asian and I think about the whole "sell everything and move to a farm" thing every so often. I like to do **** around the house so I'm sure I am strictly romanticising the idea of living the "rustic" life. These days I more think about having land in Hawaii and building a house that can live "off-grid". None of these things are realistic but I wouldn't discount Asians wanting to get away from it all. Maybe the previous generation and their blind ambition.
This isn't meant as racial but it's just that every person I've ever met that wants to "move to the country" is a white male. It is what it is. My sister in law is dating this guy who is about 50. She's 38 and has a 6 year. They've been dating somewhat seriously for a while now and then he springs the idea of buying some big spread in the middle of nowhere. (Never mind the school district implications for the 6 year old.) This is become an issue for them because he's "gotta get back to the country." I know another woman whose husband desperately wants to move to the country. She told him "We live in an acre outside Lubbock, Texas. That's close enough."
Well, you know, middle aged white guys are notoriously well adjusted and have high self esteem. They don't need the approval of others. Why else would they wear white New Balance trainers?
I heard that, if you go up the country, the water tastes like wine and you can jump in and stay drunk all the time.
To each his own I guess. I am a restaurant ***** so I don't think I could stand living in the country. I have 80 acres my gramps left me about 30 miles south of Kansas City I could build on. Pros: Toys. Ride 4 wheelers, shoot guns, plenty of room for trailers/trucks/motorcycles hunting/ fishing privacy?? I live in the suburbs now. I don't feel like my privacy is infringed upon. Some people may feel differently cons: mowing, lots of it. an hour 1/2 roundtrip to a job in kc. when gas gets back up to $4 a gallon, it will cost a fortune. No ***. no chicks, whatsover. i would have to be married. There is nothing to do in the small town it is close to
It could be a few things... Some of it could be that the "White" fathers or grandfathers of the "Middle Aged White guys," lived in the country, and it brings back good memories, etc... Living out in the country i think gives them a sense of "Living by their own rules," instead of the "City Life," way of living. It's slow paced. Which sometimes I need. (I'm hopefully not middle aged yet.) But I remember the days in Somerville with my Grandma & Grandpa, and they were always peaceful. I don't quite know if I could "FULLY" live out in the country, but maybe just outside a decent sized city somewhere. It could be too slow for me though. But at least I can park in my yard without it bringing down my property value.
another pro. burning ****. cardboard boxes, whatever. branches. i live in the city and if there is a storm we have to cut all our branches into 16 inch peices and wrap them up with yarn. in the country you can just burn the ****. and pissing off the front porch. i miss that
If I had my way I'd have a country home and a city home. A nice spread, either lakeside or riverside. I'm not really into farming or raising animals, but big enough so I can't see my neighbors. Then a small apartment in a walkable city or neighborhood. I could commute to my city apartment during the week, and go to the "country" home on the weekends. N either of them would have to be notably nice or big, just modest. That'd be sweet. edit: wow, grammar errors everywhere!
Just exactly where we going I can not say But we might even leave the U.S.A. 'Cause it's a brand new game, and I want to play
For our black posters: Goin' to the city, got you on my mind, Country sure is pretty, I'll leave it all behind, This is my decision, I'm comin' home to stay this time. 'Cause I'm a fool for the city, I'm a fool for the city, Fool for the city, I'm a fool for the city. Breathin' all the clean air, sittin' in the sun, When I get my train fare, I'll get up and run. I'm ready for the city, air pollution here I come! 'Cause I'm a fool for the city, I'm a fool for the city, I'm a fool for the city, I'm a fool for the city. I'm like a fish out of water, I'm just a man in a hole. The city lights turn my blues into gold. I ain't no country boy, I'm just a homesick man. I'm gonna hit the grit just as fast as I can. I'm tired of layin' back, hangin' around, I'm gonna catch that train, then I'll be city bound. {Rod - Solo} I ain't no country boy, I'm just a homesick man. I'm gonna hit the grit just as fast as I can. I'll get off on Main Street, step into the crowd, Sidewalk under my feet, yeah, traffic's good and loud. When I see my inner city child, I'll be walkin' on a cloud. 'Cause I'm a fool for the city, I'm a fool for the city, I'm a fool for the city, I'm a fool for the city... I'm a fool, (Fool for the city) A fool for the city, (Fool for the city) I'm a fool, (Fool for the city) A fool for the city, (Fool for the city) I'm a fool, (Fool for the city) A crazy fool, (Fool for the city) I'm a fool yea, (Fool for the city) A fool for the city, (Fool for the city) (Fool for the city) (Fool for the city) I ain't no country boy, woo! (Fool for the city) (Fool for the city) Woo! (Fool for the city) (Fool for the city) A Fool for the city (Fool for the city) (Fool for the city) Whoo! (Fool for the city) (Fool for the city) ...
Skinny dippin' in the Perdenales River Country girl sure could make me shiver Right now that's just what I could use To wash away these big city blues Hollywood stars beneath my feet Everywhere I look I see concrete I could use a little Southern rain Blanco County calls my name Chorus ******* these big city blues I got them big city blues Someone done went and stole my favorite pair of boots ******* these big city blues Daddy was a no count bull ridin' son of a ***** That's what my momma said She cursed the day they ever met She's the cutest small town thing that he'd Seen in the world 'cept daddy loved the big city girls
Somewhere out there on that horizon Out beyond the neon lights I know there must be somethin' better But there's nowhere else in sight It's survival in the city When you live from day to day City streets don't have much pity When you're down, that's where you'll stay In the city, oh, oh. In the city I was born here in the city With my back against the wall Nothing grows, and life ain't very pretty No one's there to catch you when you fall Somewhere out on that horizon Faraway from the neon sky I know there must be somethin' better And I can't stay another night In the city, oh, oh. In the city
I grew up in NE Texas, small town, kind of in the country. Great place to grow up, love visting, don't think I could live there. Everything has pros and cons. I guess I could do it, because I lived it once, but no my first choice.
I have no fantasy of moving to the country 24/7, but fiance does. She wants horses and dogs all over the place. As long as she leaves me to my internet games and let's me tend my weed farm, I'll let her do it.
